Jane,
Maybe you should have made it clear that your reply fitted your personal circumstances.
I used the word right to mean it was incorrect not a violation of someone's rights.
As for your statement about being forthright with the truth and not misleading someone with a lie, you can tell the truth with tact and not with a sledghammer !
Yes it can be a difficult decision at times, you can hurt someone by not teling them something and you still hurt them by doing so. Speaking from my own personal situation but I'm sure others may agree , I know I'm in a no win situation . If I hadn't come out to my wife at all and the first thing to find out was I am going out to meet others socially dressed as a woman, I'm sure it would have given her a heart attack. At the same time because of DADT I can only go so far with the truth I guess that's the situation Becky is in.
Becky,
Just to remind me does your wife know nothing of your dressing or are you in a DADT situation ? I ask because does she have some of the truth but you are withholding details that you feel will upset her too much ?
