Quote Originally Posted by Becky Blue View Post
Good points AnnaMarie in the absence of information people will make up the missing bits to suit their own feelings and views.

So I would like to hear some HONEST answers from those of you who HAVE told their SO's. A few questions:

1. When you told your SO did you tell them everything the full depths of your feelings? Or did you hold back and perhaps play it down based on their reaction or otherwise?
2. Those in DADT situations what have you done/would you do if your feelings towards your gender change slightly. For example when you told your SO the 100% truth you were a CD who simply liked to wear woman's clothing on occasion. SO accepts but doesn't embrace and you are now in a DADT situation. Fast forward a bit and your feelings start changing and perhaps the urge to dress grows or you start wanting to take the girl further... do you update your DADT SO or keep your feelings to yourself?
1. Everything except that I have a female name. I wrote it all in a letter and read it to her late one evening. Answering all the questions I knew she was going to ask. Even mentioned where I kept my things, I wear makeup etc etc.

2. Things have changed for me but I know my wife wants nothing to do with Anna and I believe mentioning more would only compound things more. Although things have changed for me, my feelings towards my wife and kids only deepen and they are the most important part of my life. If asked I will talk about things again but after trying to bring up the subject numerous times I know she doesn't want to talk about it. Although things have escalated for me, with my current family situation I put their happiness above mine in this respect. So no, unless asked, the subject won't be brought up again