Zooey, I never thought your intent was malicious. It was a flippant, indelicate way to characterize the vast range of behaviors that can fall under the description of (more or less) straight males wearing women's clothing on any basis more regular than a Halloween lark, but it it nevertheless a form of play for many (I would guess a majority). Serious, practiced, meaningful, grown-up play, but still play, especially for fetishistic CDs. It is more serious than a child's mermaid costume, and we are all aware of the many reasons, both implicit and those we express and own, why we do it, but, unless one is making a living from it or deeply ensnared in it as a core personality expression, it remains a form of play, just as our other hobbies might be. If it's more than a hobby, we're into that vast gray area between the poles of the binary, and I like to believe that area is vast and accommodating.
I found the analogy of wanting the money in the cash register to be an inappropriate one that completely failed to credit the debilitating angst that leads one (and one's therapists and other providers) to make the transition decision. There is such a thing as looking at how you spend your days and how your moods change and whether you're thriving in life, then taking a big step back and having no honest choice but to conclude that it's causing the requisite disruption of normal activities. At that point, you're at a diagnostic threshold that is beyond simply persuading yourself to transition.
I give you full points for standing your ground and trying to make that distinction. A few deductions for style...
