Ilene, I believe that for many of us the feminine experience is more enriching and enlightening than anything we've ever experienced. As my retirement approaches I can't imagine spending it doing just the usual male pursuits as only my male self. I truly need to experience life as Carla also because that is a big part of who I am. She is me and also a person that I need to have in my life. I'm two or so years past the great reveal but I don't really give it any celebrity. My wife has gone through all the name calling and when she's pissed she refers to the proclivity as play baby stuff. For a week I did what Tracii suggested and played the male asshole routine complete with chauvinistic comments about her appearance. She swore that it was the alcohol doing it but, I had already quit drinking.
Unfortunately, you're going through an awful rough spot on this journey. Joint counseling would level the playing field quite a lot. I went with her to her counseling session one time. She's never mentioned it since and I think it's because a lot of truth that she didn't like came out.
I wish you all the best.
