Ilene,
Just to comment on Carla's point.
This is the problem I'm having with my wife, so much of me is being rejected as if it doesn't exist . It isn't a nice feeling a good part of you is withering away because you are trying to retain remnants of a marriage . At some point you have to be realistic and accept if it's gone it's gone , no going back !
Teresa,
You are a dear, and I know you have suffered for yourself.
And I hear you (and others) loud and clear.
People are not so disposable with me, and I truly do love this woman and she has loved me. I know there's a way to make it all work; to accommodate Ilene, and remain with the best friend I ever had. I know because I see vestiges of it in the lives of well-accepted forum members here.
Change can be painful for everyone. There were some ugly surprises in our heated discourse. I take into account that it's equally difficult for her as me.
There resides within me a Woman, and she is powerful.
She has been my Grace and Bearing on the stormiest seas.
I could no more deny Her than I would my own soul.
You are kind, beautiful and wise, Ilene. Your wife is lucky to have you -- even if she does not realize it.
Carries a spray bottle of "pink fog" around with her in her purse at all times.
One of my wife's comments was that she couldn't talk to family about it and she financially couldn't even leave. I was puzzled why she thought I was some kind of different person. So, being the problem solver, I said that with half of the proceeds from selling the house and her monthly fixed income I could set her up with a budget if she wanted to leave. And that I didn't care who she told. It sort of ended that thought. Every now and then I get a comment about my play baby crap as she calls it but, I really just don't care. She only tries to make it an issue when she's mad about something. And I've learned over the years to just do the 'whatever' routine. You should never try to put a fire out with gasoline.Originally Posted by Teresa
I've waited so long for this time. Makeup is so frustrating. Shaking hands and I look so old. This was a mistake.
My new maid's outfit is cute. Sure fits tight.
And then I step into the bedroom and in the mirror, I see a beautiful woman looking back at me.
Smile, Honey! You look fabulous!
Hi Ilene, There isn't anything to add that hasn't already been said,
But you know that you have hundreds of friends that are always here for you
anytime to lend an ear.>Orchid.
Having my ears triple pierced is AWESOME, ~~......
I can explain it to you, But I can't comprehend it for you !
If at first you don't succeed, Then Skydiving isn't for you.
Be careful what you wish for, Once you ring a bell , you just can't Un-Ring it !! !!
Carla,
We have already sorted the financial split out, the valuers are coming on Monday , we are continually being told in their leaflet drops that they have prospective buyers for our style of house so I'm waiting to see if they can put their money where their mouth is !
Sometime ago I told her I have no objections who she chooses to tell if it helps her deal with my Cding , I also stressed it was none of my business unless she does decide to tell me. The difference for me is her brother and sister know as do their married partners, and my children know as well as their partners . She also appears to be OK with who knows in my social group, I do talk about them to her, I don't think she realises how many of the public have seen me at the hotel where we hold the meetings .
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