So, basically I am gathering that the general consensus here is that omission is lying and we should be totally transparent with our wives. What this opinion does not address is how members who?s wives have demanded DADT can even have that type of relationship.
Basically that approach invalidates and makes every DADT an arrangement based on lies, even when the GG spouse is the one that establishes it.
In my case that makes me a liar and invalidates my standing as a member of this forum. If my peers aka the members of this forum will not tolerate me or lend me any respect who will? I cannot help it that I was forced to live in this depressing situation and now I have no respect here.
The urge to purge and work with my therapist to try and wipe out this life long affliction is becoming much more pronounced. If I am hated on here for being in a situation I did not ask for what is the sense of even being a member?
What is the alternative that would gain respect? Blow up a 51 year marriage so I can go to the feed mill in a dress in my small town? That is not happening so I will have to decide if I even belong here on this forum.
