A couple points of clarification: I absolutely do not see femininity and submissiveness as related, and I believe Domination and submission in a romantic relationship is a sexual style, or practice, not a gender issue. Gender and sexuality are separate issues and I tried to be careful in raising this lifestyle issue to explain that it has made the crossdressing less tense between us. She, btw, although, very assertive, is also extremely feminine.
She is not quite as uptight about seeing me in panties as Reine portrays, but her being in charge of my dressing has helped the situation. She actually will take me shopping as a reward :-).
There is plenty of love and respect in our marriage. We?ve been together for a long time, share much companionship, mutual friends, etc.
This is the 4th time I have approached her to attempt this. This time she agreed stipulating what she really wanted was for me to show that I could really listen to her feelings and put her first. That has been my goal and she has seen how happy it makes me for her to assume a more dominant role.
