I dunno...maybe I'm missing something here. I guess I always saw a marriage as a partnership between equals, and issues, even CD related ones, decided by respectful and hopefully loving negotiation. One person might take a more active role, but the other is not submissive. The idea of the wife or husband "leading" the marriage is for me kind of uncomfortable. Even in the case of CD, whatever the arrangement is should be decided upon mutually, and hopefully it would not become a deal breaker. I know it has been for many among our ranks, but that might be the settlement, cold though that may sound. Anything less than the balance I'm trying to describe here sounds too dominant to me, and would increase not decrease tension, at least it would around my home!
