Wife Led Marriage and CD

[NancyJ]

Thanks to all who have responded so far. I posted this thread primarily to see whether there were any others who are living this lifestyle so that I might connect and communicate with them. It sounds like (at least so far) that I am the only one who is trying this lifestyle. I feel bad that Dutchess has been hurt by CDs who apparently deceived her and attempted to manipulate their relationship with her. And Reine, I do appreciate your attempts to clarify. I do have so much respect for you and I have read a good deal of the sound advice over the years that you have provided on this forum.

I do want to be clear about a few things: My wife and I have been together since we were teenagers. We are now retired. We love each other very much. We have made, and continue to make, many major life decisions together. We continue (thankfully) to have an active sex life. She has always put limits on my crossdressing and I have always tried to be open with her about it, but it has been the source of some of our biggest fights because (I will admit) I have always wanted more and I have done some sneaking -- but she has known, at least since I started figuring it out, that I liked to wear women's clothes. We kinda grew up together, so I didn't exactly figure it out until we were already together and I naively thought that some of the urges would go away when we got married and I lived with a woman (Silly me: It just got worse because I was living in an apartment with women's clothing in my closet and dresser drawer!)

Anyway, I asked her to be in charge of our house -- because it is clear she is better at it, and I like knowing what she expects from me. There are other aspects to a Female-Led Relationship that I asked her for, some that she found a bit strange or even funny, but agreed to try, and so far we have both found have added excitement, fun, and clarity to our lives. So, just to be one hundred percent clear, I do not think there is any manipulation. It is a negotiated way of doing things. I am not her slave or something like that. She is not wearing leather or carrying a whip around the house.

However, I she now does tell me what she expects from me around the house. I like this clarity a lot. I also know what I can wear without permission and when I must ask permission. And, without going into detail, we both like that she has totally taken charge of sex. Truth is, she probably always was, but we have made it more formal.

BTW, the look I most love to emulate is the professional woman look, not a so-called sissy appearance. I want to be a woman more like my wife, actually.

I will answer any more sensitive questions by PM only for obvious reasons. I would also be happy to advise as to how to approach your wife about this if you think it might be something she might be willing to consider. Thanks to all, Nancy