Dear Bea,
I discover myself as a crossdresser together with my wife (my introduction post have the details). In my case she likes the feminine side and thinks it is much more sexy when I'm mixed up (i.e. in boy mode with makeup or using only a male shirt open revealing a bra), but she is not confident (neither do I) to let me show myself this way in public. Society (at least here in Brazil) is still very conservative and we always think on what we can loose if I go show my feminine side to the world.
So enjoying, the fact that I can be a feminine man, privately is the only way to go. Funny thing is, if I present myself full dressed and dolled up, she still have afraid of bad reactions from society but she is more eager to go out with her "girl friend". This is very contradictory, but this is the way we can go.
