Di, Thanks for the comment. I always appreciate your input into the forum.
Unlike Sher, I am not really in the same category as most seem to be here in that I'm more of a feminine man than a man trying to look like a woman. For the first 30+ years or so of our marriage, I denied and hid any sign of femininity from myself, from my wife and from the world. I did ok but never really fit in anywhere.
I've come to realize and accept that a lot of made me not fit in was, in fact, a psychologically androgynous and feminine leaning nature. I'm totally straight and have loved my role as husband, father and now grandfather. I tried to be the man she wanted, but I obviously failed long before trying my first pair of panties. More than a few very hurtful and disrespectful comments over the years have left deep scars.
So yeah, I'm "lucky" that she tolerates me, but tolerance has never really been my goal in marriage. I haven't given her a choice to a big degree as far as dressing, and I'll always wonder if the only reason she stays with a feminine/crossdressing man is because she's developed health issues that make her dependent.
I appreciate that there are people like you out there, who'd look at the spouse and say "I love this, because I love you and this is part of you". That's obviously rare.
