It is all equal in our relationship. No leader, no follower. We make decisions together. Works great, but it is definitely non-traditional. Didn't used to be that way; I was the leader and decision maker and she followed my lead. Too much conflict in that arrangement. So we came up with a new arrangement where we are equal and nobody is deciding what the other will do (or not do). We discuss things until there is full understanding on both sides. All boundaries are agreed to with a goal of being as much a couple as possible without lapsing into dominance and subordinance. To do that though you have to have unconditional trust and truthfulness. To us that is the way it should be in a relationship based on love and devotion to each other so we can be a bit like one person composed of two people.
