I didn't like Tessa's attitude and what she wrote, it didn't sit well with me, and it immediately told me that she was not only young, but " angry ", angry with herself and about herself, and as someone said .. she just wanted to " rant ".
She also seems confused. And I don't accept her tone and her insults. So.. basically I will just say my piece....actually to give my :2c:.
I have been married for a long time, will be 40 years next year, and been crossdressing since age 8. I didn't tell my wife when I met her, simply for fear of being rejected, for fear of losing her. Because she is a product of our society, and our society does not accept crossdressing and most people ( my wife included ) do not really understand the mechanics of crossdressing, and the issues relating to it. Therefore, in order to avoid problems, serious problems I might add, lots if not most cds decide to keep it a secret, and crossdress in secret or in private when they are alone. In my case, as I got older, I noticed that my desire to crossdress grew and got more intense each time. I have to say I loved to crossdress from the first moment I started doing it, but as I got older, not only did I like it more and more but I found myself needing it more and doing it more. It also started to occupy more of my time, I started to think about it more and more . I'm not complaining btw, not at all .
Eventually the day came when all of a sudden, the opportunity was there for me to come out and tell my wife about my passion. And I did ! It happened when she was throwing out some old pantyhose and stockings, and she said just get rid of all these nylons and throw it in the garbage, and I instinctively blurted out " NO....!!!Please don't...... and I heard myself say to her...... I want to wear it......please don't throw it away ".
It was that fast.......and she was surprised to say the least. And confused. But she didn't get angry, she actually told me she wished I had said something about me being a cd when we first got married. But....one can't undo the past as they say......
Today she knows I cd, she is not crazy about the idea, she would much rather I be a " normal macho " husband, but she knows I can't be that. So we don't talk about the subject, but we both know its there.
I don't feel I deceived her, I don't feel I betrayed her. Not at all. If we lived in a more tolerant and better society I would have definitely told her of my passion for crossdressing. No question. But I loved her from the moment I met her and I still do today. I am just trying to find a way to balance my life, keeping her happy as she deserves to be and also taking care of my love to crossdress, which happens to be very important to me.
I hope I made sense here .....I would love to get girls's thoughts on this... I feel its so very important to communicate and exchange thoughts.

I love this forum, simply love it and I welcome any comments........

Michelle