Quote Originally Posted by Gabrielle Hermosa View Post
Are you using the words "sex" and "gender" interchangeably? As in one's sex is female just like one's gender is female? If that is the case, then yes, crossdressing is all about sex (as in gender), or more accurately, feminine gender presentation. At least that is what it is about to me. It is different for different people.
It is for different people but that doesn't make what I say false. First, I'm not using sex/gender as only one meaning. Like all my examples, because of sex there is gender. If there was such things as humans who are asexual, then there wouldn't be differences, there isn't male or female, only human. I don't know if you or anyone else is dreaming up some other theories of WHY we are different, we are different to attract the opposite gender to procreate. That is the reason for all of this CD/TG/TS whatever.

Ok maybe I'm talking too deep? Think of a lightbulb, it creates light for people to see, BUT regardless of why you like a lightbulb or use it to see or use it to do homework or cooking or just like how it looks so round and cute... WITHOUT ELECTRICITY there would be no light bulb. It is because of invention of electricity that we can have a light bulb. Sure you can have a torch but a torch is like apples and oranges to a light bulb.

So I just think it isn't "right" or kind of dismissing the core nature of CD/TS/TG which is sexual when people ignore that fact. Like kind of ignoring the mother of gender, which is sex. That offends me to some extent... trying to take credit of something when you don't acknowledge what gave it birth.

I hope I've gotten through...

I honestly felt as if you were annoyed with me in your original post (the one that I based this thread around). You seemed annoyed with my "celebrating" being who I am. Perhaps you were more annoyed with the misconception that it meant I walked around cheering all the time (as in drunk party-mode) or something, but I believe you're clear on that now.

I'm not sure if you're still annoyed with me or if you ever really were, but your post did seem like a bit of a rant about my enthusiasm of being who I am. You did, in fact, use the word "rant" in your initial post and that is what I base the possibility of you being annoyed with me around. And if you are bothered or annoyed with anything I say or share, that's your right. I won't hate you for it or anything... although I'm not trying to upset or annoy anyone.
I just don't understand what you meant by celebrating and it just seemed like you didn't care about anyone else or what other people think and did what you want.

I'm not sure exactly where you're at, Kate. I can't read your mind, but I believe that you second guess yourself a lot and have a sense of guilt at times because of your cding. I can't help but wonder if that is at the heart of why you find my joy of being a cd irritating to you - perhaps because I am comfortable with and love this part of myself that you are still struggling with to some extent. Or perhaps I'm off my rocker and don't know what I'm talking about. Again - I can't read your mind. I'm just thinking back to some of your previous posts that clearly display uncertainty and guilt about your cding and how it affects people in your life.
I'll get to the part of you thinking I'm irritated by your joy in the next paragraph. I'm not guilty, I'm confused though. For myself I just feel that this is no different than a normal GG or normal GM/GB wanting to be something/someone or act out something in life. Look, I accept life as it is with all the realities of it. I won't be able to fly to the moon, I won't be rich with trillions of dollars, I won't have 100 wives, etc etc. Yes those are some of my fantasies I wish I could get, stupid or illogical or not, they are what I WANT. I don't see being a CD any different. I'm not going to dress up as a stripper and go to work or the mall, even if I were to 24/7 CD I wouldn't do that. I guess you're saying that's OK because that's what you want to do? I just don't believe that, I believe in power of many, of caring and trying to work with others. Meaning I don't think its appropriate to just do whatever you want whenever you want.

Again, CD is no different to me than playing my online computer entertainment games. I sexually pleasure myself often but I'm not going to do in front of family members or friends. Most won't. But the impression you give me is that if that's what you want and that's who you are, you should do it? So pedophiles are ok too then? Anyway.

I'm going to keep encouraging others to celebrate their lives, and enjoy their gift, too. I'm going to keep sharing my life with the world... for as long as I can feasibly do so. I'm going to encourage others to do so as well. If we all put forth a positive example of who we are and allow others to know us, society will begin to accept us more. If we keep expressing shame and guilt about who we are, society will keep classifying crossdressers confused people with a mental illness.
Also this, if anything. Think of those Jehovah witness people coming to your door preaching and telling you to believe what they believe or the religion fanatics or extremeists. I'm not saying you are like that but what you say is related to being like that. Just do whatever, forget what others think or how they feel, as long as you feel good, do it. I just don't find that great advice to give to people. Why not care about people you love? Just because you need to dress in a skirt so there's no alternative, have to do it because you have to. So what if I'm like Dexter© ? (For those who don't watch the show, he's a serial killer who needs to kill but channels it in killing criminals) So it's ok to murder people because that's me, regardless if they are criminals?

I just feel sometimes you give people not so great advice when saying this and seems very selfish and immature. I've learned when I was growing up to care about others more than myself and to always be a host even at a guest's house. I guess I am the only one here, so I must be wrong.