Quote Originally Posted by KateC View Post
What I'm saying you're lying to yourself or at least maybe I think you're not being clear is the whole girly thing.
Being a girly man into girly fashion (for me) means that I like to dress up and appear fully girly, as in a female appearance and a girly-girl. When I'm in guy-mode, I'm in guy-mode. There is nothing girly about me - all man-clothes. I often call it my "man-suit". I don't underdress. I'm either in girl-mode or guy-mode - I don't mix it up.

I don't care who you are but sex DOES play a role, weather implicitly or explicitly.
Are you using the words "sex" and "gender" interchangeably? As in one's sex is female just like one's gender is female? If that is the case, then yes, crossdressing is all about sex (as in gender), or more accurately, feminine gender presentation. At least that is what it is about to me. It is different for different people.

I honestly felt as if you were annoyed with me in your original post (the one that I based this thread around). You seemed annoyed with my "celebrating" being who I am. Perhaps you were more annoyed with the misconception that it meant I walked around cheering all the time (as in drunk party-mode) or something, but I believe you're clear on that now.

I'm not sure if you're still annoyed with me or if you ever really were, but your post did seem like a bit of a rant about my enthusiasm of being who I am. You did, in fact, use the word "rant" in your initial post and that is what I base the possibility of you being annoyed with me around. And if you are bothered or annoyed with anything I say or share, that's your right. I won't hate you for it or anything... although I'm not trying to upset or annoy anyone.

I simply love who I am, even though I can't fully explore it because of how society treats people like me. But that is a big part of why I share the things I do, both here and on myCDlife.com. I'll share this part of my life with the world and live as a positive example of who crossdressers/transgendered people are. I'm happy with myself, and so I'll share that with people. I love that I'm a cd. I used to hate myself for it, but it brings me so much joy now. Like I said - society has the problem, NOT me.

I can't change the world, but I can open a few minds and hearts before my time is through. I can show people what a beautiful gift I have and that I'm not some perverted freak. I can educate people as to what being a cd really is and (hopefully) put to rest those idiotic negative cliches people have about us. And for other crossdressers who are confused like I once was, I can show them that their confusion is unfounded - it is ALL based in the lies society has filled everyone's heads with - including our own. Remove the social stigma from crossdressing, and I doubt people would feel much confusion or self-hatred. If one's self-hatred is due to rejection of a loved one, that's an entirely different situation and people can make someone feel badly about any aspect of their life. It's a lot more potent when a social stigma is attached to it, but I think you get my point.

I'm not sure exactly where you're at, Kate. I can't read your mind, but I believe that you second guess yourself a lot and have a sense of guilt at times because of your cding. I can't help but wonder if that is at the heart of why you find my joy of being a cd irritating to you - perhaps because I am comfortable with and love this part of myself that you are still struggling with to some extent. Or perhaps I'm off my rocker and don't know what I'm talking about. Again - I can't read your mind. I'm just thinking back to some of your previous posts that clearly display uncertainty and guilt about your cding and how it affects people in your life.

It seems that we do have somewhat of a communication problem. Semantics come in to play to some extent, and the intent of my words seem to fall short of the correct meaning in your mind. I believe you understand me a little bit more now... or so I hope you do.

I also think we have some obvious differences in opinion. There's nothing wrong with that. It's ok to disagree. I'd rather have someone disagree with me honestly, than agree with me and be lying about it. I can disagree with what someone says and still respect them - so long as they're being truthful.

I'm going to keep celebrating my life, Kate. I think in time, you will too (without guilt), when you're ready. I think you're still growing as a person and discovering who you are. Life is a constant growth process, but I think you understand what I'm saying.

I'm going to keep encouraging others to celebrate their lives, and enjoy their gift, too. I'm going to keep sharing my life with the world... for as long as I can feasibly do so. I'm going to encourage others to do so as well. If we all put forth a positive example of who we are and allow others to know us, society will begin to accept us more. If we keep expressing shame and guilt about who we are, society will keep classifying crossdressers confused people with a mental illness.

I'm not confused, nor do I have a mental illness. I know exactly who and what I am. I'm going to live my life without shame about who I am. I'm going to embrace and enjoy my gift - even if not everyone else is happy to be a cd. I am happy, and that is all that matters in my life.

I will gain respect and acceptance from people. I'll get it because I'll earn it. I love and respect myself, and that has a lot to do with it.

Ok, that's enough. I just reiterating points I often make anyway... but that's what I do. I hope my time is well spent and I bring at least a little inspiration and hope to others.

I pray I can bring a little inspiration into your life, Kate. I'd rather make you smile and see you be happy with yourself than have you be annoyed with me. Not everyone will accept who you are, but that is true in all walks of life and not unique to crossdressers. Have the courage to be true to yourself. Celebrate your life. It goes by way too quickly.