celebrating my life is NOT about lying to myself

[TSchapes]

Think of those Jehovah witness people coming to your door preaching and telling you to believe what they believe or the religion fanatics or extremeists. I'm not saying you are like that but what you say is related to being like that.

Yes you are saying she is like that. The JW example is off base because JW are intrusive in that they trespass on your property, telling you, you're wrong in the way you believe and there will be future consequences of those beliefs. Extremeists,[sic] will tell you you're wrong and threaten you on the spot. Instead. people come to this board voluntarily and read Gabrielle at their will. They can choose to believe her views or not. I can't picture Gabrielle knocking on anyone's door, or threatening anyone.

Just do whatever, forget what others think or how they feel, as long as you feel good, do it. I just don't find that great advice to give to people. Why not care about people you love? Just because you need to dress in a skirt so there's no alternative, have to do it because you have to.

I don't get a sense of this from what Gabrielle is saying. Let's flip this around. If no one in the world cared whether we wore men's clothes or women's clothes or cared whether we present ourselves as men or women, would what Gabrielle is advocating be so provocative and reckless? Is it because of other people's transphobia that we have to be so careful?

So what if I'm like Dexter© ? (For those who don't watch the show, he's a serial killer who needs to kill but channels it in killing criminals) So it's ok to murder people because that's me, regardless if they are criminals?

Gee, I wish you could find a more extreme example...

I just feel sometimes you give people not so great advice when saying this and seems very selfish and immature. I've learned when I was growing up to care about others more than myself and to always be a host even at a guest's house. I guess I am the only one here, so I must be wrong.

Again, I don't get a sense that Gabrielle is being selfish and immature. I would venture to say it is very hard to care about others more than yourself, because you only can control yourself and your own actions. You cannot be with someone else all the time, only yourself. I believe what Gabrielle is saying is love yourself, love who you are, be true to yourself and the rest will fall into place.

With all due respects, Tracy