Quote Originally Posted by battybattybats View Post
But aren't there reasons a person has a disclosure obligation? Like having an STD needing to be disclosed before sex?
If CDing had an actual negative consequence then yes there is an obligation. But what is getting hurt when a person reveals they are a CD? Just the other person's prejudices and perceptions. That is their responsibility not yours. So a better analogy would be someone with an incommunicable disease - should they tell? knowing that the most likely reaction from the other person is irrational disgust and fear.

But doesn't the gene found suggest that there is need to make the world more TG friendly for the sake of children and childrens children? Doesn't it make overcoming transphobia part of protecting our own familes (mine too, I still have cousins!)
You are making a logical argument without regard to human behavior. Taking care of yourself and your immediate family will always take precedence over changing society unless society is particularly threatening - ie a ruthless dictatorship. There are many needs in this world - there a 1 billion people starving as we speak. If you apply logic then tackling transphobia is hardly a priority when there are so many more fundamental issues that need to be tackled head-on.

Quote Originally Posted by Deborah Jane
If you are planning to spend the rest of your life with someone, then surely she has the right to expect total honesty from you regarding something like crossdressing, which could affect whether or not she would want to spend her life with you!!
But that is part of the honesty conundrum - the fact that your clothes choice could make your SO walk away from an otherwise healthy and loving relationship. This should NOT be a subject that is raised to the level of being a relationship breaker -it should be more like your SO knowing that you are a stamp collector. No big deal. However if you are TG to the point of going full time, or going public, or if you have a femme alter ego where you become a different person then these are substantive grounds for telling all.