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Quote Originally Posted by tinalynn View Post
Take this FWIW because I've never been out with my wife. However, if we ever do I would really hope that she would treat me like a girlfriend. Why? Because it's scary enough just wondering if you'll be noticed! Having my wife be my wife might make that more difficult (holding my arm, looking at me intently - like she does). Just be a friend, leave the bf-gf thing for other times. That's my thought on it, anyway...

Do I change personalities? I didn't think so. I do sit more ladylike, walk with smaller steps, etc. But wifey says I become more thoughtful and courteous.
Do you realize you are asking your partner to deny your relationship, her affection for you and your bond while in public? Albeit she may wish to anyhow for many heterosexual women don't particularly want to be perceived as a lesbian despite many CDers fantasies of it.

But the real irony of it all is here I am fighting for the right to show public affection to the woman I love without being harassed, to marry her legally and not have to worry about the state deciding whether or not I actually HAVE a relationship at all. And there you are, in a heterosexual relationship asking your partner to hide it in fear someone will read you.

Standing up for who you are, whether you pass, whether you are gay, whether you are in dress or whatever the circumstances is what helps earn your rights as a person and helps establish and/or keep those rights for others. The only time it seems people are nervous to stand out is when they are embarrassed of who they are. Don't be and certainly don't make your wife feel you are. Let her be proud to walk beside you! [/SIZE]