This was inspired by JulieC thread on marriage and fear .
Cross dressing and marriage , why does it have the effect on some marriages so much more that other things that a person could do within a relationship .
Most other things would have maybe one or two things against it , maybe to much money spent on it or to much time spent on it .
So what is different about cross dressing , well as was mentioned in that thread FEAR for one, but where is this fear coming from .
Unlike a lot of other things it can be coming from the CDer and the wife/SO of the CDer, the CDer may fear that their wife/SO will leave them because they are not manly enough, they may fear that they will lose their job if found out , they fear if they tell and they fear if they don`t tell and get found out .
The wife/SO may fear that their partner is becoming less of a man , they may fear that they will be left on their own if the CDer wants to go further with it , then you have all the out side interference , will all their friends stop speaking to them , will the children be affected and get bullied at school .
Cross dressing can if you let it ruin a relationship purely on that one feeling alone FEAR, yes i know that there are many other things to take into account but if in your relationship you can get over that fear of the unknown when it comes to cross dressing then you will have nothing to fear .
(But i may be wrong)
