Of course crossdressing and marriage can coexist. But it takes a lot of factors, many of which have been mentioned here.

Most important are truth, honesty and committment from both parties, starting from before they each say, "I do!" Yes, I am talking (again!) about telling your intended before you marry her! That is being truthful, and not living a lie during your married life. And be honest and tell her the whole story about what your desires are. If you do desire to eventually become a woman, be honest and tell her. If you truly love her, that should be no problem! She does have a right to know that the man she intends to marry may become a woman at some future time.

I am a living example of how crossdressing and marriage can coexist. Many of you already know some of my story. At age 77, I have been crossdressing, in one fashion or another, for 70 years. At the age of 23 I became engaged to my childhood sweetheart, after telling her that I was a crossdresser. She totally accepted me "as is!" BTW, we had known each other since I was 9 and she was 7. We were married 7 months later, and wore matching white silk lingerie to our wedding.

We did set some "ground" rules for my CD activities. I agreed to never dress, at least outwardly, around our friends unless I was in full Stephanie mode including wig and makeup. Also, I agreed that we would not any children we had and I would not dress around them in any way! The most important rule, at least to me, was that I never forget that I was Her MAN! As my Tag line says, I am a man underneath, no matter what I am wearing. I have no desire to be a woman, and I made that very clear to my fiance when I told her! Often during our marriage, and just before she passed away, she told me that she considered me to be not only her husband, but also her boyfriend, her lover(my favorite!), and her best girlfriend! This all came about because we were both very truthful and honest with each other in our communication. Oh yes, our marriage lasted almost 50 years! Sure we had arguments, maybe even fights, but never about me being a CD. Every marriage will have arguments, because people don't always agree on everything! That is the way life is.