Crossing dressing and dating guys?

[ReineD]

What is so wrong with having an occasional attraction to or fantasy about men? I think it's a shame that many GG's would hold their man to a standard that they themselves don't meet.

No Misty! We're going in circles here. I'll be blunt. If a GG has issues in the bedroom with her husband and then it becomes apparent that he spends time and energy with femme fantasies, it is a problem. It is obviously not an issue if their sex life is intact. But for a CD to um .... be auto-erotic and then to have sexual issues with his wife is problematic. This isn't so difficult to understand, is it?

It is not about being gay or bi. It is about a behavior that comes between a husband and a wife if they do have issues in the bedroom. But how many CDs who have such issues will believe that their auto-eroticsm doesn't count, or it isn't their wife's concern, since it is not done while they are in guy mode? In other words, just to make it clear, why the higher libido with the femme fantasies and the low libido with the wife? I imagine some GGs for reasons of their own are OK with this. Others are not.

And I'm not talking about the middle-aged CDs who have low libido issues all around due to their age, medications, or any other reason. It is the idea that a wife should be compartmentalized just like the dressing is for many CDs. Does this make sense?