Quote Originally Posted by ReineD View Post
It is worth repeating that for some, it is an occasional, private, fun fantasy that doesn't take away from the sexual relationships with a wife. For others, it is a stronger fantasy that may cause issues in the bedroom with the wife and if this is the case, the wife needs to know this.
Bulls-eye Reine.

It's interesting to me that this is such a polarizing issue.

What is so wrong with having an occasional attraction to or fantasy about men? I think it's a shame that many GG's would hold their man to a standard that they themselves don't meet. Just because a guy can admit sexual feelings for another guy does not mean he's gay or even wants to be gay.

I got news for the hets, being gay is a lot more than sex. I've said it before but a fantasy about sex with a man or even having sex with a man does not make you gay. However, if your fantasies lean more toward romance with a man then you may very well have homo tendencies. Think of it like this, if you have a quickie with a guy at a wild party, you may or may not be gay. But if you spend all afternoon shopping while holding hands and snuggle together during a movie, you're definitely gay or bi, whether you had sex or not.

Personally I'm bi and can go either way anytime. I could be in a relationship happily with either gender. If I was with a woman, she wouldn't have to wonder if I liked men, she would know. I love men, so what? I wouldn't spend time trying to convince her I didn't like penises, I would spend time convincing her that she was the most important person in my life.

Honesty is the key, and the truth will set you free.

-Misty