Quote Originally Posted by Michelle.Martin View Post

The notion that most TS are gay was an assertion by a variety of 1970's era practioners such as J. Michael Bailey, Paul Blanchard and similar so-called researchers.
I wasn't trying to define anyone, merely parroting what I thought that I remembered with regard to the conclusion of a study someone mentioned.
In any event, it is unfair to generalize anyone's sexuality, regardless of how they define themselves. To paint pre, post and non-op TS, and crossdressers as well, with the same brush denies individuality and is no better than doing the same thing to members of any other diverse group of people, hetero or otherwise.
We all have some common characteristics and we all make some generalizations because trying to indentify everyone in every context would be tedious beyond belief.

Ultimately, it is the person herself, or himself, who has the right and privilege to define their own sexuality, and not anyone else. If a TS in any one of the op-states I have mentioned says "Well, I am a ____ and I prefer to date ___ " that does not give anyone the right to say "Baloney. They were born with a penis so they're gay. End of discussion." To be frank, that is the same sort of thinking that has at a minimum marginalized the TG community for so long and these outdated beliefs serve only as roadblocks to acceptance and integration, and reinforce shame and prevent people struggling with accepting their own gender identity from getting help to understand themselves and move forward in their lives.

Finally, believing that looking at ******* websites will give anyone insight as to what transsexuals are all about is like trying to understand what teachers, secretaries and airline flight attendants are like by looking at other porn sites.
Perhaps it won't explain everything, but if two people are having anal intercourse, then I think it is a safe bet to say that they are NOT heterosexual (although someone may say that they will take pay to be gay.) Hell would freeze over before anyone other than my doctor stuck anything up my butt. So I guess my conclusiion is that if one is have Anal Intercourse, it is likely a gay activity., in my opinion I've logged hundreds of thousands of air miles and not once have I ever seen a flight attendant have sex with a passenger. I've flown a few times myself, and while I have never been in an airplane crash, I do know that they happen
 These are porn sites They're fantasy, they are entertainment, and nothing more, and should not be regarded as a reliable barometer of anything other than what is marketable for that particular audience.
I suspect that a lot of standard bedroom fare between males and females is a lot of fantasy, entertainment as well. It may also not be a barometer of how well that couple is doing as a couple either.
I was not meaning to be argumentative, but asking Reine a question based on a conclusion THAT SOMEONE ELSE DREW. the conclusion may have been faulty, but the question remains and could have been asked without mentioning the study, which I did not read, but saw in some thread.
My question was not unlike that asked by many wives of cders--are you gay? It is a valid question and one that can elicit many answers, some perhaps not entirely true. We are very clever as a species, and knowing how many cders here have NOT come out to their SOs, is it any wonder why the question is asked in the first place?
If I have stepped on some toes, it wasn't intentionally done. Any time the motives of people are questioned, somebody is going to feel picked on, but in order to have a dialogue, we need to make some assertions, even if they are later proven wrong. I have not said anything about my views being a world view, nor are they necessarily MY views, just a starting point for discussion.