Yeah, but it's different for you! You're gay and proud of it, no matter how you dress.
I guess my question is addressed more to the self-identified hetero CDers who don't normally have an attraction to men except when they're dressed and who, for the reasons explained above, find it exciting and thrilling when a man is attracted to them while dressed. Again, do they realize that when this happens the man is also attracted to the very thing they seek to hide when they are dressed. Does it ruin the fantasy if they know and feel this?