Excellent and fascinating question, Reine! I've only had a guy act like he was obviously interested once and it wasn't a good feeling. I was dressed in what I had hoped gave a professional, respectable, business look. I had on a navy blue knee length skirt suit, cream silk shell top, light tan pantyhose, and black 3 inch basic pumps. For jewelry, I had a wedding band and fake diamond ring, ladies watch, bracelet, thin gold chain necklace, and moderate (1 inch) dangly gold earrings. I had my hair pulled back in a loose ponytail. I had lots of foundation and concealer on, but my lipstick, blush, and eye colors were toned down. I was window shopping at a Dress Barn. About 15 people walked by without anyone giving me a secong glance, except one. Why is there always one? Anyway, he obviously realized what he was seeing, and looked me up and down. His smile was that creepy kind. He nodded and said in a loud voice "OKAY....." as though he was assuming I was a CD hooker and looking for business. I pretended he wasn't takling to me, ignored him, and walked toward the grocery store about a block away. It was about 4:30 PM and lots of people were out and about. I don't consider it a horrible experience, but it made me very uncomfortable. I'm straight, and don't like attracting the attention of guys, and I can't think of any circumstances where I'd flirt with any. Some women gave me passing glances and would smile just a little, as if in acceptance, approval, or even a little admiration. None laughed or acted as though they saw me as funny. The women's reactions have always been the ones that made me feel comfortable and more feminine. I don't think I "pass" under the scrutiny of guys, and it does make me very uncomfortable when I attract their attention. I've been believing that's part of the way GG's feel when they get unwanted attention from guys - nervous, uncomfortable, and hoping they're not followed when they leave the area. When I go out dressed, I like to appear respectable, and wear things professional women would wear. They are the ones I try to emulate. Sometimes I'm treated with respect, and that, combined with the dressing and appearing feminine and attractive, is what I think I'm after.Originally Posted by ReineD
But this is what I don't get: regardless of whether you (and others) are attracted to men or not (since this isn't the point of my question), I gather a big part of the thrill is, you feel the admirers are treating you like women. But from everything I've read from people who have active profiles on those sites, the admirers are after TGs for the very thing that TGs are masking when they dress, namely, their male bits. Which brings me to my question ... doesn't this present a conflict for you? Does knowing that an admirer sees you fundamentally as a guy and he's just doing what guys do when they want sex, make you feel any less feminine? Or is this something you just don't like to think about when you are dressed? I hope you don't mind my asking, but it does fit in with the thread topic.
It just seems to me there are two different agendas going on between CDs and admirers and I was wondering if knowing the reality of it all makes any difference to your feminine feelings that become enhanced when you think they are seeing you as women. Or, like I said, does it make any difference?
I admire the brave souls who will tackle my question.
Thanks for a great question,
Linda
