Denise, my heart goes out to you. I can't imagine how you can deal with all of the issues life is throwing at you and also attempt to deal with your own trangenderism. OMG, you must be constantly on overload. If for no other reason, it would be a mental-health day to get away from it all and just be Denise for a little while. May your day be terrific!
I must still urge you to have your wife seek medical attention. Much of what you have said about your situation could easily be a "simple" hormone imbalance or other very treatable situations. For your own peace of mind, I hope you can keep my suggestion in mind.
tina
