Well Denise, I hope you do not think I was one of the ones that criticized you. I sympathize with you. I feel you. I know exactly what you’re going through. I do know how hard divorce is. Two times I have gone down that road. I can tell you are a good person. I practically beg my wife for divorce about once a week, but she won’t budge. Oh I can do it the hard way I guess, but it will cost so much more than what we can accomplish if I can get her cooperation. But that’s not happening on her side.
Maybe you can just go to Vegas by yourself, and when you get back, she will probably raise hell. Let her raise hell, for she’s going to raise hell no matter what you do. Some of us talk about this being a support site, then you come here looking for support, but then you get the opposite of support. I’m sure that if you were to say to hell with it and not go to Vegas, and never dressed or became Denise again, do you think your menopausal wife would be good to you then?
I don’t think so. Mine was all for me becoming Tara for about 6 months, went with me to SCC 2010,had a great time the two of us, then flipped on me. I haven’t became Tara since my return from SCC the third week of September. I don’t mention cross dressing to her at all, but she still will find something to raise hell about. She gets into drunken stupors and gets the gun and aims it at me and say I will kill you, you SOB. I just back out of the room nice and slow. Then while I’m sleeping on the couch, I hear her talking to her ex husband on my cell phone. I feel that members here should read your story and comment how they feel, either agree with you or disagree with you, but to the one that says “you poor thing”, is just uncalled for. It’s not support nor understanding, but just to make a mockery of you. I’m not about that.

I close with this that I have said to my menopausal drunken, bi polar, suicidal wife many times. “Although if we split, we may not ever find happiness, but, it is best for us to divorce and separate and move on with our lives and separate forever and we can at least live with the “HOPE” of happiness than to continue living with each other with the certainty of misery”

L&R……………Tara