Kelsy, you have enough posts to know the type of responses Kate exhales. Being direct is one thing but when the speaker has her own agenda and her own philosophy that "it's may way or the highway" or life as a woman must be based on the "Kate Doctrine," is when her value vanished into thin air. The OP was not just talking aloud to herself. She was sincerely asking for some help. Having a "Shark" respond as she is famous for serves no one other than Kate's ego.