It is the ts section....It's not a tug of war...no one here (outside of thera) has an axe to grind...it is also true that nothing is certain, we all have bias based on experience...kathryn's wife stayed, mine didn't..any advice from us reflects that

i can only think of a very few people that have come here and said they are ts only to realize they are not....and frankly the most prolific posters here tend to have a transsexual radar (there is a good arguement kathyrn is suggesting that we should all shut up!! LOL...but i view it that we have valuable experience to share, and its each persons responsibility to read the posts and judge for themselves..), and that radar goes off or doesn't and it influences what people say..in my opinion, much for the better...otherwise every answer to every question would be...see a therapist, be honest with yourself, good luck!...there would be no point to it..

read the first paragraph of the OP... that is not even remotely close to how crossdressers wonder/fantasize/contemplate if they are ts... it is just so easy to say "i think i may be ts, or though it was ts"...ESPECIALLY on internet message boards...thats not what the OP says...

my therapy was very broad and i know 100's of cd's and just as many transsexuals...there are observable patterns and similarities....i have never personally met a cd that TRULY BELEIVED they were transsexual at any point..but i met tons of them that like to pretend or wonder if they are...that ask me lots of questions of what its like...kind of like its cool, fun, exciting, interesting...

older ts women that lived a male life continue to fight being ts right up to the point they can't, they dread transition as much as they dread not transitioning, they experience this self knowledge as a blow because they invested so much in their male lives, they think of all the people they are impacting, about $$, about their jobs.... they focus on the life threatening aspects of GID..why?? because we all feel it inside eating us away and as different as we are, we feel this gender dysphoria the same way, and you can read posts and tell when another person has that feeling..

my statements are just information...hopefully they are helpful. they are about facing your own reality as quickly as possible so you get the best quality of life for yourself while causing the least disruption in the lives around you..

... the best bet for steph and angie is to do their best to deeply explore this together.....i would totally respect that either one of you guys is not ready to deal with this yet, or that you don't want your lives dissected, but that's not the impression i get from your posts..

In a perfect world, you would meet every married person going through this to get feedback and share experience...this would help you think through your real life options and help you both learn how to best deal with this for yourselves..