We're in the TS section, so it makes sense that we hear from people who were in denial about being TS for many years. But, in the CD section, we hear from people who at one point thought they were TS and then realized they weren't.
(We hardly hear from anyone who moves outside the notion of binary gender.)
It's almost like a tug of war. Generally, the TSs assume that people who are questioning themselves, are TS. The CDs who never thought they were, and the TGs who thought they might have been, assume the "questioners" aren't TS. The wives (except those who stay the course) don't want their husbands to be TS. I guess everyone has a bias, including me (I often suggest giving serious thought to the middle ground especially if someone is not certain they are TS), so I think the best thing to do for someone who is in Steph's position, is to either not post at all until they've sorted it out themselves, or post their questions/thoughts/experiences on both sides of the forum to get balanced views (keeping in mind that everyone posts in all areas). :p
Angie and Steph, honestly it must be difficult to read posts from people who dissect your lives like this (including me and for this I apologize). Part of the discussion though is loosely about the two of you, but also people use your situation as a springboard for the discussion about a very important issue for most everyone here, which is the difference between the various levels of trans and how to sort through it all.
I continue to hope that you will find a way to sort through all of this peacefully.
