Yes I am hurt, yes I am angry. Guess what. So is steph!
If Steph is truly TS this is something she's known for the 23 yrs of your marriage and a lot longer before that. A recent formal diagnosis of GID from some therapist doesn't confirm 100% that Steph is indeed TS. Transsexuality is not like cancer.
The crossdressing community is one that needs to stick together and continue to be there for each other for whatever one needs. We are always trying to improve the forum to better serve the crossdresser in all of us.