Wow. This thread is like a soap opera. At times it reads like the 5 blind men each describing an elephant and calling each other wrong. At times I hear the shrieking metal and booming collisions of a train wreck.
Steph 1964 and Angie's GG, it's so difficult. My wife and I are in your same boat, four rows back on the right.
It's scary. It's emotional. It's way more change than we'd like to deal with. We've always been a very close couple, but I've always been dishonest with her about my TS wants - sometimes lies to her were because I was trying to lie to my self, othertimes I lied from fear that if I tell her she will leave me. I gave it all up and have been telling my wife the truth, and finally admitting the truth about myself to her. She's finally hearing what counselors and forum members have heard for decades.
We now have the most honest dialogue we have ever had. And we have found a new closeness. At least I feel a sense of rediscovery of myself and perhaps that kind of happiness is showing through, and it is shared with her, my best friend. And in that we seem to be finding a new chapter in our relationship.
I wish you both the best, and wish you courage and strength as you move into this new chapter in your lives.
