Motel/hotel rooms and the shame of crossdressing...I feel a rant coming on!

[Lorileah]

But Lori.....the Canadian PM is one of the greatest people in world affairs?

Not world affairs...personal clandestine affairs

I wonder how you put it away ? I mean without negating yourself.

Ask the "I can quit anytime I just do it for fun and I don't need you to tell me how to live my life because I an NOT gay and I don't think "we" need to be accepted" crowd. Evidently shutting it out is easy for some. They just put the clothes on, do housework, pretend to be a girl for an hour then put it all away, unwilling to step forward and say "Hey I am a crossdresser, deal with it"

I believe that if it was so simple, than all TG people would just push the button to shut it off and be "normal"

No one said all, but I will say many. Many who still believe that what they are and what they do is "wrong"

we didn't decide to be like that, we were also born this way,

and thus you just supported Leslie's point. Why hide in a dark hotel room? Why not just own it then?

it is just harder to explain to
"normal" people.

And made harder when the people who participate sneak off to a hotel and hide from their spouse. How hard is it to explain? You just said all that needs to be said "We were BORN this way"

It is indeed very easy to show crossdressing in a negative and amoral light -

And 40 years ago it was easy to do the same to minorities, gays, and women...yet they fought to NOT be treated that way. They still are not treated "equally" but they didn't run off and hide either. Why? Because you can see what they are (OK many gays could blend as we call it and they did for years) whereas I will venture a low estimate that 50% of TG people don't feel the need to support rights because they can just "go away" and disappear into the woodwork. The exception are the TS's who have to live their lives. everyone else
can keep it hidden. Like sneaking away to a hotel to essentially cheat on their spouse by dressing and in some cases acting out certain things (but they are not gay they are straight women meeting men while they are dressed and then they are straight men going home afterward :P)

The thing is that we cannot dispel stereotypes if we ourselves believe them. If you believe you have to go to the next town and rent a room to dress and then stay in that room because "They" won't accept you, then you are part of the problem as they used to say. Just look at how many threads here are from proud posters who claim they "got away" with dressing. Boy, glad their SO didn't come home early. Glad the neighbor didn't knock on the door because this dirty little secret to them is not dissimilar to a myriad of real crimes. OH MY GAWD, can you imagine how the world would end tomorrow if you just accepted who you are?