Quote Originally Posted by gendermutt View Post
I will try my hardest to offer my opinions on why I feel it is of utmost importance that regardless of circumstance, telling early on in a relationship is the best way to go. I mean no disrespect to anyone, or am I judging anyone.
I agree with you, but unfortunately the people who have not told early on feel judged by such statements. I think that with the resources we have TODAY, any young CDer approaching a relationship would be foolish to not tell. But, this does not help the people who did not have the same advantages 20, 30, or 40 years ago.

So I think it is important to mention this as well.


... and also, that most wives (in my opinion) will fare much better if their husbands tell them even years into the marriage, than if the wives find out by mistake through some sort of negligence on the husband's part.

So it's a question of weighing the risks. The more a person CDs, the harder it is to keep it all in a box in the garage or the attic that comes out once every three months, and the more a wife will notice that something is "amiss" even if she doesn't know what it is. The erosion of marital trust will begin to occur once this stage of "hiding something but I don't know what" is reached.