I hope this can stay civil; I think we all only want everyone to have as easy a life as possible.
Paula, why did you marry two women who couldn't handle you being at all sensitive or emotional? That's a serious question -- did you believe at the time that you could go through the rest of your life being the strong, stoic one? Or did you think they would change?
Also, about the workplace, I should say that women aren't allowed to cry there either. Not anywhere I've ever worked, anyway.