@JessM - A followup question to LittleMissJoanna's - is it that when your spouse presents as fully female, and her behavior shifts to "girl mode", the dynamic between the two of you changes in various ways that aren't comfortable? For example, if you enjoy being with a "large and in charge guy", but instead sometimes have to deal with an "giggly insecure teenage girl" instead, that would be uncomfortable for many women, and the bdsm aspect might suggest you are getting less of what you might want from the relationship, at that moment. (This wouldn't be limited to kink though - I know my own wife wanted to be married to a "John Wayne" type of man. A woman of any sort simply wasn't going to cut it with her.) Am I on the right track here?Originally Posted by LittleMissJoanna
Is it the fact that you find the whole CDing thing a little too absurd, like fun for laughs but a little pathetic to see your loved one pretend to be someone he's not? Thank you for your honesty
