rephrasing, I would say that I decided to accept and allow it.
I have some questions for those in the "when is one bi" debate. My wife had a friend whose husband announced one day after many years of marriage that he was gay, wanted a divorce, and was moving to Palm Springs to live with is new boy friend. He'd been living a lie his whole life and now he was going to be true to himself. She was completely blindsided. She had no clue. She thought their sex life, while not perfect, was pretty good. If there was a problem, it was that he wanted sex more than her. So was this guy really gay as he believed himself to be? Was he bi since he seemed to enjoy sex with women before he "discovered" he was gay? Was he always gay/bi or did he only become gay/bi the moment he acted on his same sex impulses?
