My liberal wife thinks all TVs are gay

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BTW - DeeAnn:

Perhaps stereotypes have got the better of you too? It's also possible for that in an opposite sex relationship...

Katey x

No, I don't think so. It didn't feel like that anyway. The way in which we have been indoctrinated by society comes into play. And yes, that part is stereotypical, but the dynamic is this. As we have been taught, unfortunately, females are less than. So, giving up control and being passive has a very different sense about about it compared to another male. The sense is that giving up control to a female seems like establishing equality. With another male, it feels like giving the notion of dominance away. It is hard to explain, but my sense is that it seemed to be very unique experiences.

But, there is also an interesting thing that takes place, speaking in more of an academic sense. In a male/female couple, the female can often use the male's desires against him and get him to jump through hoops on demand. Sometimes this has a playful intent to increase arousal and sometimes it has a more sinister purpose. What occurred to me was that I had could (and did) have the same influence over another male in a very similar way. And that is a complete, and fascinating, role reversal.

At the risk of beginning another debate in this thread, why do you think that a hetero sexual relationship necessarily involves one passive and one active partner? Aren't both partners effectively active?

Not necessarily. Active in the sense of participation, but not necessarily in terms of energy flow; complementary in the sense of Ying and Yang. To me, there is often a fluidity in terms of what happens, but sometimes there may be more conscious events that occur. The conscious part is what I was speaking to above.

Without becoming too graphic, couples do things mutually, they take turns doing things, and there are lots of different positions to do them in plus couples can add spice by using a variety of things purchased in stores for sexual enhancement?

Trust me that these are not foreign concepts! Between 2 wives, I've been married for a total of abut 40 years. Ain't my first trip to the rodeo...

DeeAnn