We met with our counselor last night. It was very helpful. My fiancé still says he wants to quit for himself, he says everything would be much easier if he just stopped, which I get. We made a deal that when he comes to me saying he wants to shop, or dress, that it would be beneficial for me to ask him how I can help him. That way if he decides on his own that he wants my acceptance, all he has to do is tell me. Or if he wants me to give him some support to stop, I can do that too. That way I'm not responsible for making him do something one way or another. I think he has a general understanding, but can't verbalize it. I don't expect him to be able to fully explain something as complex as this seems. He knows I will support him no matter what. The bag of clothes is still by the dresser, I'm thinking im just going to put it in the drawer with my lingerie, and have that just be our "special occasion" drawer. At least then when he feels the urge to dress he doesn't drop a crazy amount of money, at least until we have talked about it.
