Reine, I agree that a person should use it corresponding with their identity. And even that description falls short for those who are non-binary. Producing any type of documentation is a complete no-no. That was done for the jews in Europe. It is what North Carolina wants to do now as an alternate to their current hate laws. We don't codify people and then go "you go this way and you go that way". This speaks nothing of the cost and difficulties of implementing such a thing. Additionally, anything that requires a bureaucratic process discriminates against the most marginalized. So we set up more barriers for those having the hardest time getting through life.

There wasn't a problem until it became a political tool. And that is all this is as the marriage battle was lost and people went looking for the next "soft underbelly" and went for us because no one knew who we were, so it is easy to create fear and hate. The only way this will settle (other than time, which will be needed in any solution) is to allow people to go where they feel safe. If we don't do that, there are too many other side issues that go unaddressed.