Bonnie,
IMHO saying you feel like Tom becuase he regularly wears a green shirt again is all about the exterior. To Tom it's just a shirt, green may be his favorite colour but I am sure he does not "feel" any differently when he is wearing it. IF you said "I look like Tom" becuase of the green shirt than ya.....I agree..
As for "man and woman" being a lived experience let's try this. If you instantly aged a 10 year old boy so that he was suddenly 45 I would not call him a man. He still only has the life experience and brain development of a 10 year old regardless of the age of the body. So in this case he is not a man as he has not had life's lessons to teach him and shape him into the man he WILL become someday.....make sense?
