Good question Jane, neither, let me explain...Originally Posted by Jane277
I posted the OP to get some good discussion going that is clearly on a pretty relevant topic. I have been at this 'game' so to speak for a long time, read a lot of books and articles and spoken to many many others in our world and spent countless hours thinking about my life with regards to gender. I was hoping (and got) a whole range of opinions and we generated some great conversations.
I am very comfortable with my decision to date and do not need to justify it to anyone. No one knows my relationship with my wife better than I do, particularly people on an internet forum who have never met us. I posted my story knowing some would judge me and I am perfectly ok with that.
I like to think of myself as an intelligent thinking person and as such was very interested in hearing other people's views and of course some of the posts made me think and challenged my thoughts on the topic, which is again part of why i posted in the first place.
I may be wrong but I am feeling a bit of negativity from you about my decision based on your various posts in this thread. Clearly to you honesty is a bedrock of your marriage (as you said you actually put it in your vows) and clearly that is what is important to you and your wife. But please don't judge my marriage by your standards, I put my wife's happiness ABOVE honesty for the sake of being honest.
