Carla,
Referring to that statement all I can say is , " If only it was as simple as that !"
Ilene is in counselling to deal with her GD issues , to some that statment would be like putting them back in a male straight jacket , I personally could never go back , it reaches a point where they either on board or not . They want you to live the life of their choosing not yours , given the chance Teresa could have been just as beneficial as the guy was .