Quote Originally Posted by Jodie_Lynn View Post
@jujudreaming

"...we only live on her terms..." In regards to other decisions, or only your crossdressing?

I don't expect you to give us a day-to-day rundown of your 16 year marriage, but if ALL decisions are made by her, and you just accede to them, then couples counseling is even more important, since you have ignored the '4 C's"

what I meant about her terms is about not letting me dress, but at weddings there are many nuances and the rest we get along well, I think I'm expressing myself badly.

Quote Originally Posted by Sherie View Post
I would love to give you suggestions and opinions to make things better but it would be coming from someone who has no training in this matter and would most likely make things worse. Form your post you both were young when you got married and 16 years is a huge investment in each other and in addition to that, you have an impressionable age child.
What I can tell you is, I believe having a good therapist can help you work through this. I never believed in therapy UNTIL I went to one and they helped me remove a huge burden I was carrying which allowed me to proceed to a good place. They didn't tell me what to do but guided me to make my own decisions and I've been forever grateful.
I've been reading post on this website for several years before I joined and found I'm not as unique as I thought and neither are you or your situation. I wish the best for you.


I'm doing this with my therapist, in her opinion I need to do this even without her knowing, then I get into a big conflict, thinking I'm being selfish with my family.