Quote Originally Posted by jujudreaming View Post
what I meant about her terms is about not letting me dress, but at weddings there are many nuances and the rest we get along well, I think I'm expressing myself badly.





I'm doing this with my therapist, in her opinion I need to do this even without her knowing, then I get into a big conflict, thinking I'm being selfish with my family.
The first bolded sentence is confusing, and I have no clue as to what you are trying to convey.

The second bolded statement I quoted is a definite RED FLAG indicating you should find another therapist! I cannot imagine ANY competent therapist suggesting that you sneak around your spouses back, and against her wishes! That's just gonna lead to trouble.