NIce points, but to me it still is a bit murky
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Misty is Kindafem
Bulls-eye Reine.
I got news for the hets, being gay is a lot more than sex. I've said it before but a fantasy about sex with a man or even having sex with a man does not make you gay. However, if your fantasies lean more toward romance with a man then you may very well have homo tendencies. Think of it like this, if you have a quickie with a guy at a wild party, you may or may not be gay. But if you spend all afternoon shopping while holding hands and snuggle together during a movie, you're definitely gay or bi, whether you had sex or not.
Honesty is the key, and the truth will set you free.
-Misty
Misty:
I guess I could now be classified as bi. Yet I do not really feel that way. And in no way do I feel like I am refusing to carry the description because I see it as something I do not want to be. But in the above quote you actually describe the opposite of the way I now feel. I am still not attracted to guys. I do not really fantasize having sex with them. I do not check them out. Yet I have a pretty romantic arrangement with a guy. I have come to like him a great deal and feel attracted to him now.
But the true woman in me has gotten to like him because of his personality, patience, and understanding, not his looks or his gender or his physique as a man. I like the way he tries to please me and takes me out where I want to go. It is the way he treats me like a lady all the time. I like his brains, too. He never criticizes me or is embarrassed by me. Suddenly, all those physical traits in men that I find so disgusting (and still do about all other men) have gone out the window.
The sexual part, while I do not seek to downplay it, is really not that important to me. So even if I have a boyfriend, I do not feel I "can swing either way". It is just not that simple for me. And maybe there are those of us that just do not fit in the usual categories. To me, I am still heterosexual. My boyfriend feels the same way as he has no attraction to guys. And people can insist on labeling us anyway they want, but I could care less. I guess I am saying in the end it is how we feel about ourselves that really counts.
I think Reine has a point
I'm no tinker bell, so I do think she has a point. The idea of someone physically bigger than me taking me in their arms.... Yes, that is a very good point.
Reine, I've kissed a LOT of frogs!
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ReineD
Or maybe women kiss differently than men? But I have to say that some men are much more sensual than other men just as I imagine women have varying degrees of sensuality too.
Since I'm straight, they were ALL GGs!:)
Way too many to count! Remember, I'm over 60!:)
The number of women that REALLY got into kissing were VERY FEW! Most of them got HOTTER the farther we went!:o
Then, there was one at the TOP of my "good kissers" list. But, the WORST in bed!:doh: NEVER understood THAT one.:brolleyes:
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ReineD
I was PMing another member about this and it occurred to me that the greater psychological difference for a TG might be sheer body size. It is easier to feel engulfed more by being held in the arms of someone who is of equal size or larger, than it is holding and caressing a GG who is more apt to fit into the TGs arms?
For me, it has to do with feeling safe and protected (more than how someone might actually kiss), even though I know that it is ultimately my responsibility to protect myself.
Not sure how it is for others. I'm 5' 10". The most aggressive GGs I've been with were under 5' 4". THEY didn't care about being cradled! Two of the LEAST, were over 6'! I was bigger than both, tho, maybe I couldn't give them that?
I have been with 2 GGs that just their TOUCH on neutral parts of my body felt like electric fire!
With both, they were quite plain, and I didn't notice them until we touched!:eek:
If any of u folks r like that, I expect you could have an ENDLESS amount of partners of either sex! And, most anyone u WANT!:D