May I interject from a male prospective.
I have dated Trans and have been surprised how many seem to be afraid to show their feminine side. This is more so with Cross dressers, them MtF.
I find them better companions, and more likely to be caring, and intimate.
But finding one that wishes to have a lasting, or long relationship is practically not available.
Although I have been in relationship that lasted more then one night, there seems to be reluctance to extend closeness.
Your points are well founded over all.