Is it complete Inflexibility ?

[MJ]

i should not say this... but Honesty upfront is the key , if you did not tell your partner up front then if she is still with you... you should be thankful and in most cases grateful , and yes what she says goes .... be thankful for what you have and can do ... i never told the one i love and i lost everything ,
and some complain because of restrictions ... be thankful for what you have

[Zee]

Honesty is core in any relationship. However, there are "inflexible" view points.

Some will say that you have to wear what others tell you, while others say that that view is inflexible. In either case, each are being inflexible.

When it really comes down to it, idealy, it would be nice for everyone to be able to wear anything they want to. Unfortunately, due to social issues, this is not the case.

Does it really matter that a woman can wear mens clothing at any time? Does it really matter that a man wants to wear womens clothing from time to time? In my honest and humble opinion, this is a relatively small issue compared to the rest of reality.

Many women think that if a man wants to wear womens clothing, then he isn't a man. This is by far the most ignorant view about crossdressing that I can think of. Of course the man is still a man. So what if he likes silky, smooth clothing. He is still the same person in or out clothing just the same way a woman is. Unless that man is seriously considering SRS, the view that he isn't the same man is the most dispicible double standard I have encountered.

Why is it that you never see men only gyms? You see women only gyms. Why is it that you hardly ever see nice mens clothing in wal mart? Women get over three quarters of that retail space. Why is it that magazines have 80% womens clothing and 5% for men? Why is it that in a business environment, a man can't wear shorts, but a woman can. I can go on and on, but you get the general drift.

Any relationship requires compromise on every issue. It is a fact of life. It is unfair to pose absolutes on anyone in any relationship. If either the man or the woman are unable to reach compromises, counselling is definately in order. An objective third opinion is what would be needed.

Be that as it may, it should not matter what other people think. Each person in every relationship should only care about what their SO thinks and feels. This goes for BOTH parties. And you know what... its really a small issue. Honesty and compromise is the best thing a relationship could have. Just don't sweat the small stuff...