I have to admit that I was a bit taken aback by your last post. I was under the impression that you were more interested in a loving and caring relationship as opposed to just getting l**d. I am sure that the percentage of guys who would just have sex with us is way higher than the 5% (where ever that number came from) so cheer up. The down side is that, as you just experienced is that they probably won't want to see us again, unless of course that they just want sex again, and we are "conveniently handy". IMHO you basically tricked this guy. The don't ask,don't tell theory is OK I suppose for one night stands, just be careful not to let the cat out of the bag. ( you really could get hurt )
It may in fact not be any body's business that we are TS, but personally I feel that laying our cards on the table with a potential SO will produce a more honest and open relationship in the long run. I certainly wouldn't want that little "secret" hanging over my head as I am sure that many who have hidden their CDing from a wife or So can attest.
Maybe you did discover that it is more of a brain fart on the part of men, and less to do with our female body, but just remember that the "male brain" no matter how screwed up it may be, is exactly what we have to deal with.
There is nothing wrong in your belief that you are a woman now, and the past doesn't matter, but as you have discovered in this case your past absoultely did matter. Right wrong or indifferent. Disclosure may in fact lower your odds of finding someone that will accept the fact that you are in fact TS, but with non disclosure you always run the risk of it coming back and biting you in the butt. I have to admit that I am confused as to what it is you really want.
Kel
