Quote Originally Posted by kellycan27 View Post
I have to admit that I was a bit taken aback by your last post. I was under the impression that you were more interested in a loving and caring relationship as opposed to just getting l**d. ... I have to admit that I am confused as to what it is you really want.
I guess like most human beings, I definitely want a loving, caring, full relationship with someone who respects and wants me. But also like most human beings, there are times when I get lonely or turned on and feel the need for some physical contact. I was newly (brutally) single and engaging in behavior that, if I was a man, no one would question - being attracted to someone and wanting to act on it is a universal trait of human beings I think.

"Any woman who chooses to behave like a full human being should be warned that the armies of the status quo will treat her as something of a dirty joke. That's their natural and first weapon." Gloria Steinem

Quote Originally Posted by kellycan27 View Post
IMHO you basically tricked this guy. The don't ask,don't tell theory is OK I suppose for one night stands, just be careful not to let the cat out of the bag. ( you really could get hurt )
I really disagree that I "tricked" anyone in this scenario. This guy and I had a few conversations before the date and we'd known each other for a couple months. He was unbelievably complimentary to me and pursued me relentlessly before I finally agreed to meet. I didn't and still don't know about every important aspect of his life history that I might find off-putting (e.g. what surgeries he's had, if he's ever been treated for a physical or emotional disorder, etc.) so what gives him the right to have a full listing of mine?

I understand that some men can react violently, and for that reason I probably wouldn't knowingly have any kind of relationship with someone who doesn't know my trans status. In this particular case I thought he did know, and there was no point in our conversation that would have led naturally to me saying, "By the way, are you sure you know that the world used to consider me a guy even though I never did, and I had some surgery to correct the parts of me that I knew were wrong?" ...